So here is the letter. I don't know why I want to post it, but it has really changed me. I think about it all the time. It really hurts me. I don't know how someone could take anything I have ever done as wrong and twisted as this woman views me. I know, I will never be good enough for her son, but damn, that was harsh. I mean, I liked her before this. Not to mention it was pretty childish. She could have just said it to my face. I dunno if I mentioned it in my other post, but I did write her a letter back, but not before I called her and tried to have it sorted out. She wouldn't have any of it and hung up on me. And since I wanted to be heard, I wrote her an 11 page letter being totally honest. More on that after I type up this letter.
"Dear Scott,
You won't talk to me for more than 5 min. so I am writing. I like many others, do not approve of your choice to get married now. But it is not my decision. I just hope you know what you are getting into with the girl you chose to be your wife. Whether you think so-- you have been blinded by her beauty + charm. She is like a black widow spider + you are caught in her web. The web of lies, manipulation and that she only cares for what she wants. I hope you can live up to her expectations. I would not dought that when you don't she will be gone, you will be heart-broken and probably having to pay her money the rest of your life. I too, was caught in her web of-we just don't have a lot of money, none of my family will help, + the long sob story that came back to kick me in the face after I offered to help, and at least take care of the reception, so there would be less pressure. Instead I get- Oh someone wants to do my boquet I got gifted a cake + wedding planner- I don't need your help now. Who cares if you spent time + money, I can get my own way now, I'm sure was her thought. Her comment of "you only taught yourself how to do flowers" "I guess your pretty good" was rude. I'm sure she wants professional- Stacy was doing the cake, bought everything, "Oh I got gifted a cake"-Don't need you unprofessional person, so what if you already started on it, and spent money. Heaven forbid we tell someone--we already have someone doing flowers, decorations, cake. Nope--we were only family not professionals. Usually both families are included in wedding--not this one. Only asked Eric out of neccesity No girls as bridesmaids, not photographer, not cake, not decorations, nothing. You better stay close to her family, because most of us are done. Who even cared if people in our family or friends were invited Not Hope! She only knows how to use people to get what she wants. Good Luck!
Before you leave--pay registration on car of the car is not yours. Seperate the phone bill or I will discontinue your service. You can come get your stuff without Hope. I want all my stuff back from wedding. Maybe when you grow up + show me some respect I'll be a little happier to associate with you. Right now-- no-- you won't stand up for yourself as long as Hope has your balls in her hands. She will walk all over you + you are allowing it. I hope all works out well for you two. I just don't see it happening. Still your mom! I love you!
Marriage
Its not just about the Bride + Groom- its molding of families-which you have made no effort to do. Families do exist-can't ignore
1. Grow up Take responsibility (I know your trying) Thank + Apologize to Family + Friends
2. You don't need everything "new" buy from DI, Goodwill, Craigslist. Many a newlywed has slept on the floor.
3. Get your bride-mental health
Maybe you too
4. Don't live outside your means-She is high maintenance
5. Don't give up on education for hers she needs her own career
6. Talk to your Heavenly Father more you will need all the help you can get
7. Get involved with Church or Navy support groups She will have someone to turn to, when your not there
8. Make Decisions-- You will not have family to turn to for help You've burned bridges Maybe that will help you grow up
9. Wish you the best of luck
10. When you grow up, maybe you will remember your family + friends that you have tossed aside for Hope.
Love you, My son"
So there you have it. Airing my dirty laundry all out in the open. (The spelling errors are hers, I copied it EXACTLY)....I don't have anyone else to talk to, so I am just spilling it here. I think about that letter so damned often. I have never had MY WORST ENEMIES say anything like that about me. She took anything I did and took it as a threat.
I never said "You ONLY taught yourself how to do flowers"... I said something like "Wow, looks great, where did you learn to do that? Oh, you taught yourself? You're good!"
I mentioned that in the letter, that she took it WAY the wrong way and that maybe she just was too ashamed herself. I never purposely made her feel that way. I knew she did not have a lot of money, so when people offered to help out, I told her about it thinking that it would be less of a burden to her! But then she apparently thought that was because I hated everything she did. The only rejection I offered was when she was spending money. I knew she wanted to help, but I felt guilty. Like she said in her letter, SHE OFFERED. It really is too bad she took everything I did so backwardly. I had no idea I was such a bitch. Then there was the cake thing. Yeah, Stacy spent money. So I paid her back, in full. $200. Not that I got any proof it was that much, but I PAID IT ANYWAYS.Also, if I were such a gold digger and all I wanted was to get his money, why would I have spent all my money to move across the country, quit my job, and quit school just to be IN HIS PRESENCE??? I must be an awful stupid gold digger. I made more money at some entry level job than Scott is making now, to be honest. The Navy doesn't pay you much unless you become an officer and are in FOREVER. I mean, okay then.
But yep. I just figured since I found it and I am not over it, that I would finish the story.
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